"I just found out my husband is having an affair. Can you help me?" I have heard this many times since I started Revolution Counseling. Each time I hear a woman's brokenness on the phone, I get sick to my stomach. Then quickly, I pull myself together and schedule her an appointment at my office.
When she walks into my office for the first time, I feel many things. I feel grateful. I feel terrified. I feel honored. I feel inadequate. Then, I quickly pray for wisdom. Their stories are different. Their stories are the same. All of them are a beautiful, broken, scattered mess. And together, we pick through the mess...one piece at a time.
It is interesting how life shapes itself. It wasn't so long ago, I was that broken and shattered pastor's wife who made the same call to a counselor. My life was a crazy mess. She helped me pick through the mess and walked with me, each step of the way. I am grateful and feel both humbled and honored God is using me, to help other women.
I have not advertised my counseling practice to be, "The Counselor Whose Husband Cheated Can Help You Too." Somehow and through means I could never orchestrate, one woman after another has found me and asked for my help. Maybe it is that beauty for ashes concept or the He never wastes a pain, idea.. Either way, I am humbled and honored.
Recently, a person I highly respected told me they felt my credibility as a counselor had diminished because I was unable to reconcile my marriage. Their words cut like a knife, yet over the last four years, I have heard many cutting comments. I reeled in those words for two days. Maybe I shouldn't be a counselor?
Then.. an email from another shattered woman hit my inbox. And a phone call from one more heartbroken woman sat in my voicemail.
My "credibility," is not something I have time to argue about today. I just know God has seen fit to send women my way who need help. So, I am going to help them. I am going to keep listening to their stories and cry with them. I will give them every strategy and tip I have for sorting through the chaos of infidelity. I will walk with them each and every step of the way.
The road back to life after infidelity is not easy. It is not easy, but it is worth it. Every tear, every angry outburst, every heartfelt, tear-streaked prayer is heard. Keep going... It is likely that as you look back on your road to healing, you will find you like yourself even more than you did before. You will discover you are capable and strong. And you know what? You are capable and strong. You are beautiful. You are amazing.
If you are reeling from the heartbreak of infidelity, I want you to know there is hope! Get up. Fight. You are not alone.
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